The Achievement of a Good Life Is More Fulfilling When Achieved Together
Sometimes one partner starts dreaming bigger. If this is you, you’re learning what it’ll take to make those dreams come true and unlearning the things that were once self-imposed road blocks. What happens when your significant other isn’t coming along for the ride? That can cause chaos, turmoil, and resentment.
Once you become half of a committed relationship, life becomes a team sport. This can be a beautiful thing. But if the two of you aren’t on the same page about what you want in life, it can become a stressful situation where you each either settle for mediocrity or live in quiet resentment of the other person.
To avoid this, you simply have to listen.
Start with a blank sheet and ask the other person what goals they want to achieve. Listen and write down their thoughts. Ask questions like:
- In 5 years, what would you life to look like and how would that make you feel?
- In the next year:
- What do you want to do?
- What do you want to have?
- Where do you want to go?
- Who do you want to see or spend more time with?
- Who do you want to become?
- What do we need to do in the next 90 days to make what you want inevitable?
While you’re interviewing them, you’re not allowed to make any judgements — positively or negatively. Apart from the questions written above, the only other questions you’re ok to ask are ones that clarify the specifics of what they want to achieve and their motivations behind their goals. Have them do the same for you. Once both of you have taken your turns, it’s time to have a discussion around which goals you’ll truly commit to and how you will support one another in their achievement.
Until next time, cheers to you and your partner’s goals!
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